As of this week, I’m officially back to being a stay-at-home mom as I wait for baby #3 to make it’s appearance in only about 3 short weeks! I’m always on the fence about this feeling, although I have to say so far I feel so relaxed knowing I don’t have to set my alarm, and the kids have been absolutely amazing and totally set my mind at ease about introducing a third into the mix. But then, it’s only been 3 days :)
I have an incredibly long list of things I want to do now that my nesting instinct is kicking in (either that or panic is setting in as I realize we actually don’t have a baby room yet until we find time to restructure our ensuite, and time is getting a little tight).
I’m always on the fence about going on maternity leave because as much as I love the idea of getting to things I’ve left for when “I have more time”, I still get a little thrown off by having more time.
I have more time.
A lot more time.
And for me this means a major drop in productivity, a complete shift away from efficiency, and a bad habit of glancing at the clock, which makes the days seem about 8 times longer than they are. So if my days are 8 times longer, why do I get 8 times less accomplished??
A mystery of the grandest proportions, yes?
I seriously don’t know how stay-at-home moms do it, and I would love advice. I admire stay-at-home moms more than just about anyone, and truly want to be a good one, to best serve God and my husband and children through my presence in the home. So, how do you fill the days? Do you stay home all day? Go out every day? Watch TV? Do yoga? If I can manage (albeit barely) to stay on top of everything in two days at home, how can I productively use those other 4 days? (I’m leaving Sunday out because that’s a day of church and rest and family and doesn’t tend to factor in to any of my planning).
Trouble is, I’m not much a of “Pinterest mom”. My own mom was a Pinterest mom long before Pinterest existed, never afraid to whip out multiple glue guns and tubes of sparkles at a birthday party with 10 little girls. She taught us all tole painting at a young age so we could join her in the “paint room”, and she still proudly displays some of the pieces we made.
I, on the other hand, am terrified of seeing a glue gun or a sparkle if there is anyone under the age of 20 around. I love alone time, and the freedom to spread out my own mess without having to think about anyone else’s. I’m trying to think of where I can closet Carl away for office space so his giant office that houses an extra table and chairs can become my giant craft room instead…do you think he’ll notice?
I believe stay-at-home moms are undeniably valuable in the lives of their families, and I want to be a great one who somehow manages not to compare herself to other moms, whose kids remember with fondness the love they felt, the things they learned, the good times they had, and an overall relaxed home atmosphere filled with unconditional acceptance. Lofty goals I’m not sure I’m cut out for, but I’m determined to try, and would love your thoughts on what makes it easier to remember that it’s a gift to be able to stay home, even on days when you want to give your children away and drive yourself to California.
In the meantime, while you come up with words of wisdom you’re willing to share, feast your eyes on these shoes :)
I can buy shoes just for Valentine’s Day, right? And date nights? Because stay-at-home moms need date nights. With wine. Please advise my husband :)
While I’ll still be doing plenty of baking and cooking and cataloguing the best of the best recipes here, I imagine I’ll also be doing a lot more mom-type posts and sharing fun fashion and other finds…I hope you don’t mind, and if there’s ever a recipe you’d like to see let me know and I will get right on it…after all, I’m certainly not short on time ;)
Thanks for reading!